Or, as my neighbor said, gone. We dropped Geeky Boy off at college this morning. Because it’s nearby, it was kind of anticlimactic. We knew the place well (I worked there 12 years ago) so we weren’t as dazed and confused as we might have been or in awe or whatever. In line, someone helpfully told us that lots of kids from our state go to school here. To which we thought, “Duh, we live here, we know.” But we were polite, of course. And we heard, “She just fell in love with it right away. Was it like that for you?” Geeky Boy just smiled and said, “For me, it’s about the city.” He might have been thinking, “It’s where I got in.”
We got him unpacked, made the bed, put up a few mementos Mr. Geeky snuck into his box, and then headed to lunch and to buy the handful of things we needed but didn’t bring. We forgot a pillow and turns out we needed a trash can, some hooks, and an extension cord. We were early for moving in so Geeky Boy will have a day or two without a roommate (mixup about what floor we were on). So it will be quiet, though we hope not too lonely. A couple of his close friends also left today for college. Several others leave in the next couple of days. They have plans to connect with each other in the next few weeks (all being only a few hours apart). We’ll see how long that lasts. Travel costs money and takes time, the first of which will be in short supply for sure.
It will be an adventure, and I think it’s definitely a good thing for all of us to be apart, which sounds weird, but it was time. He’s ready, we’re ready. He’ll still need us occasionally, I’m sure, but he’s going to start figuring some things on his own, getting himself out of bed on time being key among them. I think he’s going to be okay. He’s looking forward to a fresh start and to being around different people and learning new things. And I know he’s looking forward to not having as many rules or getting up at 6 a.m. (his first class is at 1 p.m.) I’m looking forward to seeing what he grows into.
Mr. Geeky and I were talking about our own first weeks of college. I remember my parents being around for maybe an hour at best and then it was just me and my roommate and floor full of girls suddenly without parental supervision. We had some planned activities but mostly, we were looking forward to being out on our own. Mr. Geeky called his first weeks the time of girls. Enough said. Things are different now, but not that different. We saw more parents sticking around, but I think the kids look forward to the same things we did. In a word, freedom.