Coming up for air

I’m in the airport with about an hour before my flight home.  It’s been a long ten days.  In a former life, I would never have been able to spend the time I did with my dad. My dad, because he works for himself, also can take time to grieve and recuperate.  I’ve thought about this a lot over the last few days.  So much focus is on work-life balance as it relates to parents, but my dad spent a week in the hospital with my stepmother before she died.  Had he had an average job, he might not have been able to do that.  We, as a society, do a pretty crappy job, ironically, of being human (and humane).

I have more to say about the last few days.  Thanks so much to everyone who left comments of sympathy on my last post.  It was nice to check in once in a while and see some heartfelt comments.  I look forward to being back in the blogging community.

4 Replies to “Coming up for air”

  1. Ah, Laura, I’m just now catching up on my blog reading and so missed your last post. My deep sympathies to you and to your dad and to the rest of your family. That you two got to spend this time together is pretty wonderful and important–and unusual–I was lucky to be on sabbatical when my dad was dying. I relive those months even now a couple of years down the line.

    I so agree with you about how our work culture has no time for death, for birth, for family, and that is deeply wrong-headed. I’ve been thinking a lot of heart and mind, too, these past days and look forward to your upcoming posts. Hope you are well.

  2. I’m glad that you were able to be there for your dad. I know that when my mother had her final stroke, I was unable to be with my father at that troubling time, as much due to my own family obligations with non-neurotypical youngest, as to my work. You’re right that our society doesn’t really put a value on humane living, for all that we pay lip service to “family values.”

    Have a safe trip home!

  3. I agree with you. Our culture seems to value accomplishment over relationships. I’m glad you were able to spend that time with your father.

    Welcome home.

  4. Oh, Laura. Like, Barbara, I missed your last post about the passing of your step-mother. I’m so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.

    Making the choices in our lives that allow us to value the people closest to us appropriately is hard. They shouldn’t be hard choices. They shouldn’t be choices at all.

    I’m glad that both you and your father have made choices that allowed you to be there for the people you love.

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